I know there has been a lot of talk about homework in various media outlets. I am looking at something and wondering if this is the norm. My elementary school aged girl switched into a new school. The academics where she was coming from were not as high as where she is now. During the first year I anticipated a ‘culture shock’ as she acclimated. And that is exactly what we got. She had never been challenged as she is now, and I was supportive to helping her learn how much more she could do. We had programs and prizes etc… and an overall positive atmosphere.
However, she is in her second year at the new school and literally studies (in fifth grade) until after 11pm some nights on the phone with friends. Ok, sometimes we call it shmuddying because there is a mix of some shmoozing in there too. But the bulk is clearly working. By the time the late hours roll around I would expect my kid to be able to let go of the school work but she has a hard time. Is it possible that she is not managing her time well? Possible, but not the first thing that comes to mind.
Firstly, as I mentioned she is studying with friends. Any mismanagement would be their mismanagement too. And other girls in the class do the same. So why would I assume she is uniquely pressuring herself?
Secondly, She loves the feeling of accomplishment that comes along with good grades. She enjoys her rewards and recognition. When she doesn’t get great grades, it’s hard for her, but she is proud (and we reinforce her feelings of knowing) that she has done her best and cannot be an A in everything (like dikduk for instance!)
For some reason though it looks too pressured to me. Are we working our younger kids too hard these days? Would it be smart for schools to help support messaging about proper bedtimes being part of Avodas Hashem along with the schoolwork? I’m curious to know what others think.